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January 13, 2005

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*** Dave

In a sense, it's a variation of "love the sinner, hate the sin."

It's difficult, of course, to distinguish between the two sometimes. We are defined by what we think and feel and do. It's important to remember that what we think, feel, and do, is rarely limited to one narrow issue (abortion, homosexuality, whatever), and so it's possible to respect and celebrate much about a person while still thinking that they are wrong, or even evil in some aspect.

And, by the same token, it's difficult for someone to hear that their thoughts, feelings, or actions are sinful without feeling judged and condemned themselves. How, then, can someone with love and respect make that sort of identification of sin (or evil)?

That's something of a rhetorical question. I think the answer is that there are times when one has to lovingly speak in (as one sees it) truth, and other times when one has to consider how to do so will be hurtful and ultimately harmful. The answer may not always be clear, but it's likely that there will be times when one course or the other is the right one, regardless of the cost.

Similarly, recipients of such criticism have to consider not just how they receive the words, but how they were intended, and what response they have to make. One can lovingly and respectfully accept a disagreement or criticism, offered lovingly and respectfully, without feeling obliged to change one's position.

The real problem, it seems, is how to translate that into the political arena, where laws tend to carve a line between what society will allow and not allow, which is a bit different from a world of ideological disagreement but respect. It's one thing for folks of differing minds to love and/or respect each other regarding abortion, homosexuality, segregation, etc., but the law can't be written to "live with the difference" except to either permit what some folks find abhorrent or impossible, or disallow what some folks find necessary or desirable. We can't get to those legal solutions without being able to talk about them in a civil fashion, of course, but all the civility and good will in the world can't mask the degree of win-lose in the legislative and political arena.

But I'm rambling ...

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